Home & Family
National Adoption Awareness Month
11/1/2018 11:23:11 AM
Adoption


According to Louisiana Children and Family Services, 797 children in the state were adopted in 2017; 85 of those in Calcasieu Parish. November is National Adoption Awareness Month – a perfect time to share one local couple’s adoption story.

There are different roads to adoption. Hillary and Dr. Tyson Green chose the foster-to-adopt route. Within less than a week of becoming certified to foster in October 2016, the Greens answered the placement call when their caseworker informed them a baby girl needed a home. With three older brothers already in place, Katherine Ann, affectionately known as Kiki, was immediately loved and welcomed into the family.

Though they didn’t have to wait long for that call, Hillary describes those days as nerve-wracking. "When you foster, you have no idea what situation a child will be coming from, and you can only pray that you will have the tools to help that child. The idea of falling in love with a child only to have them possibly go back to the birth family is something I would imagine worries every foster family the most.”

Kiki was born prematurely and spent three months in a neonatal ICU. The Greens met Kiki just prior to her discharge from the hospital. For Tyson, it was love at first sight. Due to Kiki’s health issues, Hillary admits she had concerns. "I was scared to hold her, scared to feed her, and scared to be alone with her for fear she would stop breathing.” With her husband’s encouragement, Hillary faced her fear and pushed it aside. "I knew Kiki needed me.”

In February of this year, Kiki was officially adopted into the Green family. As Hillary can attest, fostering and adoption certainly has its challenges. She says learning to do what is best for Kiki has been the hardest thing she’s ever done. But she also claims that as one of her greatest achievements. "I learned to open my mind and my heart to Kiki’s birth mother. It would have been so easy to hold resentment and judgment toward her, but with a lot of prayer, I was able to truly listen and understand her situation. As a result, I gained her trust and respect which is something for which I will always be thankful. There is not a day that goes by I don’t think about her and silently thank her for giving me one of my greatest joys in life.”

Advice for Adoptive Parents

"Surround yourself with a support system and make sure you have someone who can be your rock.  Trust me . . . you will need him or her more than you can imagine. And don’t be afraid to turn everything over to God. On the day before we brought Kiki home, we met two of our closest friends for lunch. Discussing the situation and the fear involved, we said, ‘God doesn’t give you anything you can’t handle.’ Then one friend said to us the words that became my constant mantra: ‘No, God doesn’t give you anything HE can’t handle.’Those few simple words affected me so deeply throughout our foster-to-adopt journey and beyond.”

-Hillary Green
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