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5 Ways to Minimize Stress in Divorce & Custody Cases
7/4/2018 10:34:05 PM
Divorce and custody

Regardless of the circumstances which may take someone to a family law attorney, divorce and child custody cases almost always start in a negative place. "Divorce is emotionally, spiritually, financially, and physically draining,” says attorney Sean Corcoran, with Corcoran Family Law. "It should never be taken lightly and should only be considered when all other options have been exhausted. I encourage each person who enters my office to participate in marriage counseling. I provide them with the names of counselors and encourage them to only move forward if marital counseling is unsuccessful and they truly see divorce as the only option.”

When people are convinced they have reached that point, Corcoran counsels his clients in a way that helps to keep their emotions in check and their focus on what is truly important. He offers his clients these five tips to help minimize the inherent stress of divorce:

Care for your emotions
Corcoran believes that everyone benefits from speaking to others about the important issues in their lives, regardless of what is going on. This is particularly the case when going through a divorce, and it applies not only to the parties involved, but also to the children who face a completely new reality. There are many excellent local therapists who specialize in counseling couples. Simply having someone to talk to can make a significant difference.

Care for your body
We’ve all been inundated with thousands of articles in magazines and on the internet about the stress-relieving benefits of proper diet, sleep, and exercise. Divorce can be the most stressful experience that most people have ever experienced, so taking care of yourself physically is even more important when dealing with such a life-changing event. Although it may not feel like it at the time, getting enough sleep, eating healthy foods, and getting fresh air ensures you are better able to handle the stress that you might not be able to control.

Care for your spirituality
Corcoran believes there is nothing as powerful as what God can do to heal the damage of divorce. He advises couples to go to church or their place of worship, talk to their pastor or spiritual advisor about what they are going through and how it is affecting them, and pray to God that He heals everyone involved and helps carry them during this trying time. "He is always there and is always listening, and even in the darkest times, He will always help,” says Corcoran.

Care for your finances
Corcoran recommends clients create a budget, regardless of income. When that same income now must support two separate households, things get tight on both sides. There are great budgeting tools for computers and smart phones, and there is an abundance of information available on the internet on how to cut costs and plan spending and saving. Utilize these tools and it will make each month a little easier.

Focus on what is truly important
If there are children involved in a divorce situation, Corcoran says they should be the most important focus for couples. "The arguments have already happened. The perceived point of no return has already been reached. The lines have already been drawn in the sand and have either been crossed or walked away from. The decision has been made to move forward in a different direction. It is a decision, and with it comes the responsibility to focus on what is important. If children are involved, nothing is more important. No words said are as important as what or how your children hear them. And no fight is as important as ensuring that when the smoke clears your children have two parents and know that each parent loves them. In five or ten or 20 years, you may not remember the specifics of the argument, but the impression upon your children will impact them for life.”

Contact Corcoran Family Law for a list of marriage counselors in the Lake Area, or with any other questions you may have, at 337-602-6214.

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